Facebook dating is an amazing social networking website that you can use to get to know girls you would not have had a chance to meet otherwise. However, it seems to me that some guys have not fully grasped how to unleash the potential of facebook to find girls. Here is a list to help them.
1. Friends of friends
This is probably the first thing that comes to everybody’s mind: just browse the friends of your friends to find new potential dates. Then you can ask more about the girl you like from the friend you have in common, in particular whether she has a boyfriend, and see whether your mutual friend can introduce you.
You can also directly send an “Add as friend” request to the girl, but be aware that your mutual friend might not like that. If you decide to do so, you can add a message that relates to the friend you have in common to your request, if you know him/her well enough to do so.
As I mentionned, some people do not like that you add their friends as your friends without asking them first. I believe it does not make sense: if you met your friend for real and he or she were with a girl you found attractive, would you ask his/her permission first before talking to her? So just estimate the risk and weigh the pros and cons, but don’t restrain yourself because one of your direct friend forbids you to add his/her friends as yours!
2. Friends of friends of friends of…
If you are not comfortable with adding the friends of your friends, nothing prevents you from checking the friends of your friends’ friends. To do this, just click on the name of the girl with whom you have a mutual friend: a small window will appear. There, click on “View Friends” to see her list of friends, as shown in the following picture:
You can view the friends of any facebook user who has not changed his Privacy Settings.
If you like girl because of her photo, or because you two got friends and chatted together, chances are that her friends show the same traits that you find attractive. So you should consider browsing her friends to see if you would like to add them as your friends too.
By repeating this process from one girl to her friends, the number of girls to potentially add as friends will grow exponentially. The good thing in adding a series of girls linked by friendship in one go is that once a girl has accepted you, her friends will be more likely to accept your request too, as she will see you share her friend as a common contact.
3. Search by school
You can search for girls who are or were in any given school, not necessarily the same as yours.
To do that, click on the tab Friends on top left of the page. Then, on the bottom of the new page leave blank the field under “Search for People” and click on the button next to it. This will bring you to a new page where you can type the name of the school you want to make a search for. Note that you don’t need to enter the full or exact name of the school: just type the first letters and a list of schools starting with the same letters will appear, as shown on the picture below.
This way you can add girls who are in schools that are not far from where you live, or reputable or specialized schools, depending on who you look for.
Facebook has a list of virtually all schools to help you find current students and alumni.
4. Search by company
It is also possible to search women by company. Try cosmetics, fashion companies or any sector in which there is a high proportion of women.
5. Search by group
You can also look for female members or fans who have joined a specific group in the search bar. Think of girly interests like fashion, cosmetics, dance, gymnastics, male singers, popular actors, etc… and fine-tune according to the kind of woman you look for.
6. Search by location
Most probably you will look for someone who lives near your place, so you should search your city and its surroundings first. However, I found it quite valuable to add contacts from other countries I wanted to go to for holidays several months before going there.
You will notice that the first search results are often groups related to the location you have entered and not user profiles. This is perfectly fine, just check the members in this group and you should find some girls too add.
7. Use dating applications
Frankly, they never resulted in a real date for me, but I guess it’s also a question of age (I will soon be 30). If you are less than or around 20 (the girls I see on the photos of these apps are usually about this age), you can always give it a try though. Just go and check the dating application directory.
8. Found a girl you like on the internet and you have her name? Add her on facebook!
When surfing on the web, sometimes you will see some photos of a girl you like. If the name of the girl is mentionned (and if it’s not a celebrity!), then you should check if she is on facebook and send her a friend request. You have nothing to lose doing so.
Now let’s think about it: what kind of websites come along with names and photos of some women? Yes, other social network websites do. But that’s not all. I have added several girls as facebook friends by surfing on model agency websites. Most modelling agency websites show models who are not famous yet are amazingly beautiful and with their names. What prevents you from trying this too?
9. If you know her email
This is essentially a variant of the last item: you may not know her name, but as long as you have her email, you can search her on facebook! This way you will not only know her name, but also be in a position to send a friend request and view her friends.
Once a few girls have accepted you as their friend, you are ready for the next step: the first conversation. For more info on this, check How to get your first chat right?